Every so often, I come across a story that makes me want to grab someone by the shoulders and say, “You’re missing the message.” It’s not judgment; it’s recognition. We all ignore signs when we want something so badly that we try to bend reality into our favor.
This week, I read about a young couple who went through three miscarriages. As tragic as that is, what stood out wasn’t just the loss — it was that they’re not even married, and the boyfriend already told her he’s leaving to marry someone else. Yet she’s still holding on.
At some point, you have to stop asking why the universe keeps slamming the same door and start listening to what it’s saying. Pain repeats until you learn the lesson. If you’re trying to build a future with someone who’s halfway out the door, that’s not love — that’s self-sabotage.
Having kids, buying houses, making lifelong plans — those don’t fix broken dynamics. They magnify them. If a person can plan a wedding with someone else while “helping you heal,” that’s not compassion; it’s cowardice.
Sometimes the higher power, fate, or whatever you believe in, isn’t punishing you — it’s redirecting you. It’s saying “This isn’t the person who’s meant to walk through life with you.” The sooner we accept that message, the sooner we can stop hurting ourselves trying to rewrite a story that was never ours to finish.